The strongest of connections is the connection you have with yourself.
We spend so much time trying to nurture, maintain and hold on to connections with everyone and everything else, but when will we take time out to reconnect with ourselves. The healthiest of connections derive from a connection with someone who is whole is soul, spirit, mind and body first of all…..meaning if we are torn, tattered, broken and disconnected then every connection we try to make and maintain will eventually sever until we reconnect with ourselves. When we feel a sense of disconnectedness with others or this deep seated frustration it is generally an indication that our inner self is longing for attachment and we are too busy trying to work on connecting outwardly instead of inwardly. Going into the New Year, I think it is vital we fully comprehend how very important we are to OURSELVES, and instead of making others try to appreciate us and see value in us, we should be trying to make sure we understand our own importance, and see our own value. People learn by example, and if you want people to see anything in you, then you must take time to see yourself first. I took myself out on a date last Sunday afternoon and it was the best most freeing and liberating experience ever. I have done that before? Sure, but amid all the distractions, I forgot how I enjoy the company of myself. I dug into my own popcorn without having to share it with another. I cried during the movie not afraid to expose my vulnerability. Then after the movie, I went to my new favorite store, Hancock’s and browsed without having to be rushed along. There are perks to spending time by yourself. It actually felt so good, and I don’t think we do this enough. WE NEED the company of friends, family and lovers or even children. We feel we need to have someone around all the damn time. There is power in disconnecting from your comfort blankets, i.e. those people who distract you from yourself, and your issues. LOL, I did it for years, trying to hide behind people unable to be alone by myself because I was a stranger to myself. When you want to go out and call all of your friends and they are busy, take it as a sign that YOU ARE ALWAYS available. I looked in the mirror and didn’t know who the hell I was looking at. I will not allow anything to cause me to get back to that place where I am left to find myself all over again…..
